Not going t get married so that%26#039;s not what this is about just wondering what other peoples p.o.v is on this.
don%26#039;t get me wrong marriage is a cute idea but this is my opinion not looking for fights or anything but here%26#039;s my p.o.v:
Why do people get married?
almost every time I%26#039;ve seen it fall apart
I don%26#039;t see how a ring is suppose to keep to people together
and its probably a lot of legal problems later on .
Name change:
Your last name is part of your identity
why take your spouses name? that person cant be a part of your verry own identity, just a part of your life.
since you are not by blood in there family isn%26#039;t that kinda like false identity?
OPONIONS PLEASE?|||My opinion on marriage: it%26#039;s not for everyone. My husband and I got married because we wanted to, pure and simple. We%26#039;ve never thought that the piece of paper or the rings on our fingers would keep us together...the ring to me is just an outward sign of my commitment to him and him to me. As far as the name change thing...I took his last name because I hated my last name, lol. He offered to take my last name, but I couldn%26#039;t stand that;) A couple of years ago we legally changed our last name to honor his biological father. Just because I chose to take my husbands last name doesn%26#039;t mean I think that%26#039;s what everyone should do. Marriage and taking someone%26#039;s last name are very personal choices and what works for some may not be best for others:)|||mmm im getting married because ive found the guy that i want to spend the rest of my life with. i want to be the mother of his legitimate children too. mostly i love the title of his wife. its beautiful
my last name is part of my PARENTS%26#039; identity and i dont want it. i would much rather take the name of my husband because i believe that when two people wed they become one and she takes his name. it is not a false identity. it is a new identity that comes from getting married.|||i felt similar to you before i met my husband. every marriage that i had seen in my family had failed and if they hadn%26#039;t divorced yet, they weren%26#039;t happy, they were together for other reasons, such as for the kids or whatever. the night i met my husband, i knew he was the one and my ideas completely changed.
as far as the name change thing, i did not change my name because in his culture (he%26#039;s arabic) woman don%26#039;t usually take their husband%26#039;s names. i could have if i wanted to but at the time i didn%26#039;t, now i kind of wish i did. when you get married, you start a life with that other person, you aren%26#039;t giving up on the life you had by taking their name, just starting a new one. the ring isn%26#039;t what keeps you together, its the love and commitment you have for each other. not saying its easy, its definitely a lot of work sometimes but anything worth having, you will have to work for. your mind might change when you meet the right person.|||If people want to change their name that is fine, I dont have a problem with people that do. Personally, my name is staying put.
As far as getting married... My opinion is that it is for the legal benefits only, especially legal marriage. I mean, if you want to be married by the church or whatever, cool. But legal marriage is ONLY about the legal benefits.
My spouse and I are not legally married and wont be until we have children.|||wooo! that is a mouthful!
I married my spouse in 2002. I was 29 yrs old. he was 25. I always thought marriage was just a piece of paper and it didn%26#039;t have alot of meaning,
however with former boyfriends, not having that silly piece of paper gave them a reason NOT to be faithful, because they weren%26#039;t married.
My relationship now, is the longest relationship I have had, and ours gets better all the time because we APPRECIATE each others differences.
Marriage is a SERIOUS step, shouldn%26#039;t be mistaken as %26quot;cute%26quot;. their is nothing cute about a lifelong %26quot;contract%26quot; with another human being.
You get married because you can%26#039;t stand to be apart from your partner, you don%26#039;t want to share them with anyone else, and oddly enough you wouldn%26#039;t even mind bearing their children and having a family.
Being married is more than a diamond ring to show off to your immature girlfriends.
It is a symbol to others that you have committed your life to someone else,and that you are spoken for.
Legal problems stem from someone in the marriage breaking their contractual agreement. It happens.
An individual changes their name because they choose to become one with their spouse.
If I had a child, it would carry on my husbands last name. that would be my child, and his child. Since I chose my husbands last name, now we both share that name with our child. You do not lose your identity just because you take your husbands name! if anything, you gain an identity, which separates you into a living and thinking individual, because you CHOOSE to take the name!|||You are right you don%26#039;t have to change you name you are getting married to get a divorce so why change it. You will save time and money.|||Marriage is not as bad as your opinions, it%26#039;s not all fights and arguments, yes there are some but if you love each other then you work it out.
I personally changed my name, but that is because we are planning to have children and it%26#039;s easier to change your name from the beginning rather than a few years into the marriage.
When you marry your spouse becomes your family, he/she should be your number 1 concern and until you realize that you shouldn%26#039;t get married.|||in theory when a woman agrees to marry a man and live a separate life with him you are essentially leaving your family and forming a new family. and because for hundreds of years women had no say and men were considered the head of the household then you had to take his last name. i have been married (and divorced) twice and with my first marriage i kept my maiden name but with my second i took his name. honestly i wish i would have kept my maiden name the second time too. i thought about changing it but then me and my children would have different last names and that can be hard for kids to understand when they are going through a lot already. but on your other point yes i agree that marriage is completely over rated and the next time i get into a committed relationship there will not be that issue. i will just %26quot;live in sin%26quot; !|||I got married because i met and fell in love with mr right. i too have seen marriages fail but usually one or both people were not doing their part to keep the love there. and when you marry you take your husbands name because while he is not blood you and him are one. 2 halves that make a whole. for me it was a sign of trust and loyalty to my hubby i wanted my last name to be his and i wanted my last name to match my kids...and hun they are blood so it is right all the way around. and no it is not like a false identity.|||No that%26#039;s not false idenity... Your social security number remains the same...|||Marriage is a strong commitment. Granted it is not easy all the time. To me if you are totally comitted to your life partner you share everything even your name.
