Is this a good essay 10 points?

my friend sended it to me and wondered if its good at least for a b plus.



Strange how we don't get a say in the one word we utter the most about ourselves - our name. It could be a name that we personally don't like the sound of, or a name that rings out like music to our own ears, but it is our name, our identity and we don't get to pick it.

To me my name is like trees in a forest even though sometimes you feel like cutting them down there just a part of you that you cant get rid of. My story is when I first researched my name it actually described a lot about me and meanings to it. For example the definition/personality of my name is smart, funny and nice and that really describes me im nice 95 percent of the time . Usually I like to cheer people up when there glum and crack a joke at home or with friends . Im not so sure about the smart part though because im not exactly an Albert Einstein when it comes to school, but when I was still barely a baby my mother named me after my great grandmother who was a independent and graceful woman and meant a lot to her she had always wanted to name one of her children that I guess I was the lucky kid . My parents say my name means “gift of god” to them and represents the talented and wonderful young girl you are ”. The name sounds feminine and adventurous which is a streak I have running through me. Sometimes it bothers me that people usually incorrect my name for Elizabeth ,Lizabeth ,Beth no one ever seems to get it right no matter how many times I explain it its like a unsolved riddle to them they say it leaves a sloppy feeling in their mouth but it means its unique because its pronounced more rarely and not very common. My name represents a queen and “a queen has power” like my grandma says ,so I should be proud of who I am. If I had to change my name I would change my name to Athena because that name has a great vibe . It sounds so cool and powerful plus its very easy to pronunciation ,its music to my ears ,and ist a Greek goddess but im not Greek and not even close so that name would not relate to me in any way but sound after all if you change your name it will just be a new name but it will not describe you or relate to you in any way. Maybe someday a nickname but that only because my name connects to my ancestors and it is beautiful in every way. Who knows maybe a million years from now when im old and dead on the ground or being examined by aliens I don’t know it will be a very popular name.
Is this a good essay 10 points?
It is very good

Why?

1. Punctuation and spelling is in tact

2. It's interesting

3. It makes sense - even to me (who doesn't know about this topic)

4. I like how there is a topic and concluding sentence!

Well formatted!

Little Hint: DOn't put your essay on the internet - it is too easy for someone to plagiarize!!!



Otherwise... Well done! I give it an A.
Is this a good essay 10 points?
Lol i loved it! hehe



ummm %26quot;and ist a Greek goddess%26quot; should be and it's a Greek goddess no?
YA ACTULY IT IS NOT SO BED QUITE GOOD.

dryer required in a hair salon

pedicures is flirting

How do you dye your hair?

I'm writing a story where they have to change their identity completely, and I've never dyed my hair before. So, how do you do it?
How do you dye your hair?
hmm well if you want to go blonde i would say some lemon juice, maple syrup mixed with orange juice and then somewater all on top wait 30 mins and then your hair will be some fine girl ( this is for a homemade recipe if you want go bye a hair dying kit from the dollar store they really work good but only the red and green)i went one time to get brown but the owners son changed the labels and it was actually pink , hot pink terrible, i tell you terrible, it took 5months to get out and i was called harry thegay or harry has no friends it really hurt so then when i used that recipe and it became some fine blondlines well the whole point of that story is check thelabels and use my recipe if you want hope that helps byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
How do you dye your hair?
Wash your hair.

Dry it.

Put Dye in.

Let it it for awhile.

Wash hair again.

Dry it.
It depends what dye they buy. Normally you put a towel (that you can ruin, since dye will get on it) on your shoulders. Then you have to mix the dye in a bowl or cup, then using your hands (with gloves on) you put it in your hair. You have to spread it out evenly and carefully so you don't miss any hair. Then you usually wait a certain amount of time - 30 minutes? Then you rinse the dye out.



Or you shampoo it out. It reallyyy depends on the directions and the type of dye.
Wash your hair, dry it a little and then apply the hair dye ensuring all the hair has been covered. Wait around 10 minutes and then wash it out. Apply conditioner and wash out/dry as normal.



If you are completely at unease, just buy a cheap dye and use the instructions.

xxx
well to dye your hair you just mix the developer bottle %26amp; the cream color bottle then apply to hair and rinse and vola. completa makeover.
umm, not to sound rude, but what does dying your hair have to do with your story? :P and its just easier to have to someone do it for you and it'll turn out better too.
First never wash your hair before adding the hair color The color will not take.



I usually start at the back and start parting my hair then I apply the color to my hair then I do the top the hair line is last After I apply the color I take a large tooth comb and gently comb the color to the ends. After 25 minutes I rinse out the mixture then I use a deep conditioner.
Mix the solution then start with the roots of your hair. I do mine in rows. Rub into the roots, then when finished with your roots squeeze the dye onto the rest of your hair and rub in. For long hair use 2



DO NOT WASH HAIR FIRST IT WILL DRY IT OUT AND DESTROY YOUR HAIR! The oils in your hair help protect it from the harmful chemicals.



Maybe you should ask a friend the next time they do their hair if you could read the directions

I don't understand transsexualism... ?

I don't mean to offend anyone with this question, I'm just really curious.



I understand that when a person's gender identity is different then their sexual identity they feel like they in the wrong body or the wrong sex.. right? Do all transsexuals begin a transition at a young age or do some never change at all? How do you go about transitioning? Do you just have to buy new clothes and change your hair or is it a lot more complicated than that? When you meet a transgendered person and they are a woman, does that mean they have already transitioned from a man to a woman? I really don't understand the whole concept of it because I've never really been exposed to it or had much thought about it. Can anyone shed some light on my questions or provide me a website that would explain it?



Thank you:)
I don't understand transsexualism... ?
You're correct gender identity and sexual orientation are two separate things.



To know a persons sexuality you must know how they identify gender-wise first.



If a person identifies as female, no matter their surgical status, and they attracted to men, they are straight.



If a person identifies as female, no matter their surgical status, and are attracted to women, they are lesbian.



If a person identifies as male, no matter their surgical status, and are attracted to women, they are straight.



If a person identifies as male, no matter their surgical status, and are attracted to men, they are gay.







Transition is a long, expensive process. My transition took 4.5 years and about $80,000. The first step for most people is seeing a GENDER therapist.



People transition when they are ready. Some always knew and had supportive parents that allow them to transition young. That is very rare. To be frank most parents freak out or go into denial. And that's a shame because transitioning early can minimize a lot of problems later. The vast majority of folks either gone into denial about their true selves or just take longer to figure themselves out. As a result most folks transition as adults.



What's involved? Well that's had a hard question to answer fully except to say almost everything in my life has changed. While that would be impossible for non-transsexual people to comprehend, for us it's not as difficult as you think. The difficulties involved are usually financial, familial and physical. Because we have the brain of our identified gender assuming that role is natural for us.



Much, much more information can be found here:



http://www.LynnConway.com



You said: %26quot;So it does not matter what you're biologically born as, but what your gender identity is attracted to determines your sexual orientation, right?%26quot;



Hmm the wording there is a little sloppy. Gender identity trumps body parts. After all it's your BRAIN that is the seat of your consciousness. Everyone has a gender identity, even you. The thing is for 98.5% of people their gender identity and body match. For those born transsexual they don't. So we transition to make the body match our gender. To repeat: We do NOT change our gender, we change the body to match our gender.



Gender identity is how you perceive yourself.



Sexual orientation is who you are attracted to.







Hope this helps.
I don't understand transsexualism... ?
To switch gender if they are either MTF or FTM then they are going to have to go through therapy %26amp; then get on HRT (hormone replacement therapy) then they will take a choice of weather or not they are going to go through SRS (sexual reasighnment surgery) or not to physically change there gender, %26amp; also there sexual orientation (IE what sex they are attracted to) has absolutly nothing to do w/ them being transgendered ot not.



EDIT: You gender has absolutly nothing to do w/ your sexual orientation I stated that quite clearly, I wish that people would get that through there heads.
Transsexual and Transgender people believe their gender identity does not match their biological sex. Many realize this from a very young age (personally my earliest memory was age 5). Some transition young, some transition much later in life, and some choose to not transition at all. It's variable, each person is as individual as their situation is.



Transitioning starts as simple as seeing a gender therapist, receiving hormones, and adapting your appearance to suit your gender identity. In my case, it means binding my breasts flat, keeping my hair very short, and wearing men's clothing. It can progress further to surgery, whether it's chest surgery (to remove breasts on transmen, or to augment breasts on transwomen), or still further to full genital reassignment.



Not everyone goes through full reassignment. Again, each person is an individual, and transition means different things to different people. Many people are simply satisfied to be seen as their true gender identity. Others aren't happy until their body has been fully transformed. Each person does what's right for them.



TS/TG persons have to undergo a certain percentage of transition in order to change their birth certificate and drivers licenses, and require a letter from their doctors proving such.



As far as sexual orientation, it's an issue completely separate from gender identity. Orientation starts from a persons true gender identity, for example, a man who transitions to a woman is a woman, and if attracted to other women, is a lesbian. This is regardless of her surgical status! Pre-op, post-op, non-op is all irrelevant. She is a woman - regardless of surgical status, and is a lesbian.



I hope this was at least semi-helpful to you. I've placed some links below for further reading. Good luck.
since everything else has already been adequately answered i'll try to say something about the age part ^^



ok i dont really know how to say it generally so i'll write a little about myself...



the first signs usually show very early (i think the first time i wore a dress i was 6... but i never told anyone about it until recently... well i was doing that with a friend at that time but we never mentioned it after that)... but some kids are afraid to tell anyone, thinking its wrong that they're different... well i think i was even a little ashamed... just because i thoughts its not the %26quot;right%26quot; thing to do... my parents are very liberal its just that i grew up in a small town and i dont know... i didnt want to be different from other kids because i saw what they did to kids who were ... that didnt really change much so i never came out to anyone... later, when i became a teen and the differences became more apparent i always wished i could be a girl, even if it was just for a short while... well that wasnt possible and i definitely wouldnt tell anyone because they surely would have thought i was freak and i had a hard time finding friends anyways... besides, i though it was just a phase, that it was just somehow a projection of how much i wanted a girlfriend... um right, that didnt help either (although i did forget about it for a while but love does that... ) ... but hey, who'd know? i'm a guy, i like girls, completely normal... and who wouldnt sometimes like to be the other gender?

and i really didnt know about the whole hormones and other things that are part of a full transition... it just never occurred to me that a %26quot;sex change%26quot; could be more than just a few surgeries after which you'd still very much look like what you used to be... yeah, i know, i wish i would have told someone (possibly someone with more knowledge), i wish i would have done some research, but there was never any indicator for the possibility that i could be a %26quot;real%26quot; girl... and i never wanted to compromise about that... not sure i want that now, but its a risk i'm ready to take...



well that was pretty much the story of my life :P it's an example of how it can be... so my point is, you can lie pretty well about it to yourself, you can try to live a %26quot;normal%26quot; life because of your family or your social surroundings...

so yeah, there are many (although its getting a lot less due to better access to information and more information to access to) transsexual people who dont transition at a young age... and some, maybe because theyre happily married or they just accepted how they were born, never live the live that was %26quot;meant for them%26quot;...

Happy mothers day to everyone!?

I got this in an email, it's long and it made me tear up, but it's quite amazing:

We are sitting at lunch one day when my daughter casually mentions that she and her husband are thinking of %26quot;starting a family.%26quot; %26quot;We're taking a survey,%26quot; she says half-joking. %26quot;Do you think I should have

a baby?%26quot;



%26quot;It will change your life,%26quot; I say, carefully keeping my tone neutral.



%26quot;I know,%26quot; she says, %26quot;no more sleeping in on weekends, no more spontaneous vacations.%26quot;



But that is not what I meant at all.



I look at my daughter, trying to decide what to tell her.



I want her to know what she will never learn in childbirth classes. I want to tell her that the physical wounds of child bearing will heal, but becoming a mother will leave her with an emotional wound so raw that she will forever be vulnerable.



I consider warning her that she will never again read a newspaper without asking, %26quot;What if that had been MY child?%26quot; That every plane crash, every house fire will haunt her.



That when she sees pictures of starving children, she will wonder if anything could be worse than watching your child die.



I look at her carefully manicured nails and stylish suit and think that no matter how sophisticated she is, becoming a mother will reduce her to the primitive level of a bear protecting her cub.



That an urgent call of %26quot;Mom!%26quot; will cause her to drop a souffl茅 or her best crystal without a moments hesitation.



I feel that I should warn her that no matter how many years she has invested in her career, she will be professionally derailed by motherhood. She might arrange for childcare, but one day she will be going into an important business meeting and she will think of her baby's sweet smell. She will have to use every ounce of discipline to keep from running home, just to make sure her baby is all right.



I want my daughter to know that every day decisions will no longer be routine. That a five year old boy's desire to go to the men's room rather than the women's at McDonald's will become a major dilemma.



That right there, in the midst of clattering trays and screaming children, issues of independence and gender identity will be weighed against the prospect that a child molester may be lurking in that restroom. However decisive she may be at the office, she will second-guess herself constantly as a mother.



Looking at my attractive daughter, I want to assure her that eventually she will shed the pounds of pregnancy, but she will never feel the same about herself. That her life, now so important, will be of less value to her once she has a child. That she would give herself up in a moment to save her offspring, but will also begin to hope for more years, not to accomplish her own dreams, but to watch her child accomplish theirs.



I want her to know that a cesarean scar or shiny stretch marks will become badges of honor. My daughter's relationship with her husband will change, and not in the way she thinks.



I wish she could understand how much more you can love a man who is careful to powder the baby or who never hesitates to play with his child. I think she should know that she will fall in love with him again for reasons she would now find very unromantic.



I wish my daughter could sense the bond she will feel with women throughout history who have tried to stop war, prejudice and drunk driving. I want to describe to my daughter the exhilaration of seeing your child learn to ride a bike.



I want to capture for her the belly laugh of a baby who is touching the soft fur of a dog or cat for the first time.



I want her to taste the joy that is so real it actually hurts. My daughter's quizzical look makes me realize that tears have formed in my eyes.



%26quot;You'll never regret it,%26quot; I finally say.



Then I reached across the table, squeezed my daughter's hand and offered a silent prayer for her, and for me, and for all the mere mortal women who stumble their way into this most wonderful of callings.





So mommies, what are you girls doing for mothers day? Hope everyone has a blessed day!
Happy mothers day to everyone!?
This was really sweet, I'm glad you shared that with us! :') (Happy tears.)



My husband has something planned but refuses to tell me what it is.. Hmm.
Happy mothers day to everyone!?
cute
That story was so sweet! Happy Mother's Day everyone!
I think it's about time you got a life and stopped writing cheesy shite.

How can I persuade my doctor I want to get sterilized?

I just can't get my doctor to listen to me. All I get is 'you're too young, you might change your mind'. Yes, I am young, but there are plenty of girls my age, and indeed younger, who get pregnant, or seek fertility advice, yet nobody tells them they'll change their mind!



Every time I see him, I bring it up. He says the same thing, every time. I've even seen another doctor in the same practice, and I got the same response.



How can I get a doctor to listen to me? Sure, I'm 'only' 18, but I've never wanted kids. When I was a kid myself, I never played with dolls, I never played 'house', never even though about having kids. I really don't like children. Like, at all. The idea of pregnancy really disgusts me. The idea of losing my identity and just becoming 'mommy' is terrifying. I imagine my future with kids, and without, and I know which I prefer.



Please, no 'don't be immature, pregnancy is beautiful' comments, and no 'they're right, you will change your mind' comments.
How can I persuade my doctor I want to get sterilized?
i also would like this done.i do have 1 child but hate the thought of having another.

iv listenedd to....YOU MIGHT CHANGE YOUR MIND!!....sorry but no....i actualy hate screaming crying children.i fell pregnant last year (coil removal due to body regection)and booked into a clinic for a termination...NO REGRETS!

I will be seeing my doctor soon to ask to be sterelized and if he fefuses i will demand he finds me a doctor that will.i have been on the pill,injection,coil and just had the implanon removed,i am sick of being pumped up with drugs that are not 100%,even tho i have never been un lucky with any contraception i feel this way i can relax with no worrys and loose all the weight pills,injections implants have put on!

i hope you get it done,ill cross my fingers for us both xx
How can I persuade my doctor I want to get sterilized?
I know some people like you who never ever in their lives imagined themselves to be parents

Sure enough, they end up finding a spouse who think the same way and lo and behold, they remain childless for decades, planning to be such for this lifetime.

None of them get %26quot;sterilized%26quot; like lab mice.



They just avoid getting pregnant. If so many people have done this for years, what makes you different ?



Ask the guy to get a vasectomy.
Putting aside common sense and unwillingness to help you make what could turn out to be a drastic, unnecessary, and life-changing mistake, do you realize what would happen to a doctor who did that and then have you decide ten years later that you changed your mind and filed a malpractice sit? Disciplinary action report put into the public record with the State Board, a ton of money when you sue for damages, and they would have to tap into their malpractice insurance to pay the settlement. These things can be career ending, look bad for a doctor who was ruled to have committed malpractice, malpractice insurance premiums go up because you have already shown you don't have the best judgement, your peers may look down on you for doing something that is just plain dumb and violates every ethical precinct. Doctors take these things very seriously and they didn't spend hundreds of thousands of dollars in tuition, sacrificed, dedicated themselves to, and worked very hard for to lose it all over giving you tubal ligation. It isn't even the smart thing to do and is unnecessary considering the ease and convenience of an IUD implant that can keep you sterile for up to 5 years. They are even selective about who will get those and they wear off after a while. I am not a girl but I am in my 30's and I had to twist their arm to surgically sterilize me and the only reason I got it in the end was by convincing them I have genetic defects the kid would get and I am unfit to be a father due to schizophrenia. I will respect your wishes and not tell you that you will change when you mature.That's fine because it is hard to laugh at that and type at the same time anyway.



About the only way I can see this happening is if you were to have the procedure done in Mexico or Cuba, but you gotta pay cash and if you have any jewelry on when they put you under you won't when you wake up again.

Ever heard of this happening? Identify TakeOver Scam So Beware!?

Imagine this. Someone where u work gets access to your personal infosuch as ssn, dob etc. They might need to make buy w/o their spouse knowing. They open up some charge cards in your name w/o your knowledge - get the statements- you never see them - charge on them - make payments to them. Even use cards you are aware of -you report charges not yours - payments not yours. you spot charges that are not yours - you spot payments not yours - you tell them there was an error - they send you a letter confirming - they change your credit card number to stop the fraud - but then the card comes to you at work, the person is once again aware of your new card number- Again the same thing happens - charges and payments not yours..... where might this be going? .

Well , imagine this type of identity scam - 4-5 years later and you are now being sued for any money that they CLAIM they paid on your cards!! Credit companies say it is rare - but it has happened. years later - how do you defend ?
Ever heard of this happening? Identify TakeOver Scam So Beware!?
About 2 years ago, a best friend of mine said her best friend wanted to have a charge card but her parents would not let her. When she went away to college, her roommate had several cards. She kind of got a hold of her roommates charge card numbers, and charged things and yeah, then she paid on her roommates bills. She opened up two or three cards in her roommates name, and actually got pretty lucky cuz she got to then have her own cards. She got her roommates social number and date of birth and managed to get the mail before her roommate could get the mail. Just before graduation, 4 years later,this girl and her boyfriend had an idea so they went to the police and and told them that the roommate promised to pay back all the money that she wrote in checks for the charge cards that were in the other persons name. Kind of sounds the same type of thing. And, it sounds like people will do just about anything to take something from someone else. What you should do is find out what the card companies will do when you tell them what has gone on. Oh, and by the way, this guy and girl lost - they did not get money from her roommate . Why? because she opened accounts that the roommate did not know about. They said she did not benefit from those accounts and they were fraud accounts.

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effects on relationships

Was there someone horrible working on the Collins project? I realise perceptions are subjective and incomplete?

Did the Collins project have someone creepy, like the stalker in the following ? :



%26lt;%26lt;Q/I basically want closure, I want someone to stop following me.?

He doesn't give up, and I don't know what to do to get this creepy guy out of my life. I have called the cops like 15 times. No ones doing anything. Plus I have to hear from one of his many whores he got pregnant. She thinks it's my fault. This has been happening for 2 years. I've had it! Someone tell me what to do about this...and, I hardly know him!



A/ by Zee-ster /I'm sorry you are going thru this mess. I was stalked in college myself and know how upsetting it can be. The important things to do are make sure he has no access to your telephone number-in other words change your number to an unlisted one, if you haven't done this already; and carry a cell phone with you at all times that you can call 911 if/when you see him following you. In time this should pass. Do NOT talk to any one of his friends or women as the con-vo will likely get back to him and feed into this sick game he's got going. If/when they call or approach you, cut them off at the start. Refuse to listen or engage in conversation. In other words, cut all ties. Good luck with this. I feel you.



A/ by Ramakrishna Das /Go to your local court house and have a restraining order placed on him most of which are good for three weeks and then there is a court hearing to see if it should be continued.



During the court hearing explain what is going on, what has been going on, etc. and explain that you fear for your safety and welfare due to being stalked by this person.



The judge will handle it from that point on.



You might also check to see if there is a law in the state in which you reside against stalking. If there is, file a complaint against this person and charge him with stalking.



Begin to take martial arts classes so as to be able to defend yourself if necessary.



Buy a large dog and take the dog everywhere with you.



A/ by fa fas /he's pregnant?



A/ by Mark T /Sounds like you need a stunt boyfriend to step in and explain things to him, alternatively, how do you know the guy.



Through school or work - this could be a good reason to consider a job move, alternatively you may want to seek some advice from a local counseling service, if he really is persistent in his stalking you have options.



1. Sit with some closer friends (than you are likely to have on Y!A), and honestly ask them to assess the situation independently, if they agree that you have a serious problem, as them for advice.



This provides valuable weight to the police that you have a _problem_ and may want or need a restraining order.



2. If you have this guy in your workplace and even in a school environment it could easily be considered harassment, make sure folks know.



3. Tao defense - sometimes the best way you can defend against someone might be to simply make yourself an unattractive or unavailable target for them.



While this might not always work, and it might not be a good idea to casually mention something which he would find offensive or off-putting, taking yourself out of situations where the two of you meet is probably a good idea.



4. You can never be too prepared, if there was a reason for learning some martial arts or similar defense techniques - this guy sounds like the poster boy.



5. Explain to your mutual acquaintance (the pregnant woman), that not only aren't you interested but really wish the best for them as a happy couple. Again a reflexive strategy can work.



6. In all honesty having a boyfriend or a male friend two or hanging out with some girlfriends can be good social defense against some kinds of stalking.



7. Continue as you are going - no holds barred, if you know enough about his identity, drop information into the public domain, post his name and picture on a blog and explain just how creepy he is.



If he's done this to you, he's probably done it to other women, get the word out.



A/ by Fredric /..shine a light on him ..call your local news outlet and explain your story..tell them you have gone to the cops...tell them where to find him...they like human interest stories.....tell them you are afraid for your safety and it seems no one will help....tell them if something happens to you you at lest want a record of things....its a news story most likely they will call the cops and find out why nothing has been done....most likely they will find this guy and ask him why he is stalking you....make your situation a local news story with your stalker the central character....if i was a women that is what i would do...expose him to the public%26gt;%26gt;
Was there someone horrible working on the Collins project? I realise perceptions are subjective and incomplete?
Opinions and perspectives are worthless.



Plato wrote:

Opinion is the medium between knowledge and ignorance.



Knowledge is true opinion.



I tell you that things do not depend on your eye to exist and therefore ought to be understood correctly as they are and not as you see them. This is what I am killing myself at telling people: be humble, admit your ignorance and search instead of claiming to know what you don't know.



Socrates:

%26quot;To fear death, my friends, is only to think ourselves wise, without being wise: for it is to think that we know what we do not know. For anything that men can tell, death may be the greatest good that can happen to them: but they fear it as if they knew quite well that it was the greatest of evils. And what is this but that shameful ignorance of thinking that we know what we do not know?%26quot;



Truth my friends: if you don't possess it, tell me how on Earth would you logically prefer to stay ignorant rather than trying to be wise?

Need advice from Armenians?

I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over two years. He's Armenian, I am not. I understand very well the dilemma an Armenian is faced when dating a non-Armenian. My situation is not different than anyone who has ever been in this situation. He and I discussed this issue before we started dating and I told him I was aware that this may stir up a great conflict with his family, but I was willing to take that risk. However, I made it clear from the beginning, the only way it would ever work is if we were on the same team, otherwise the issue with his family would be a losing battle for me without a doubt. We thought long and hard before jumping into anything and in the end we both decided to give it a shot.



Fast forward two years later we brought up this issue the other day and it was then that he confessed that the issue was not just with his family, but also with him (i.e. he wasn't sure he himself could marry a non-Armenian). At that point, I was confused because he had never talked to me about it. I was always under the impression that it was just an issue with his family, mainly because he was the one who wanted to pursue a relationship with me. I was obviously hurt because had I known that he had the issue, I would never have allowed myself to get attached or to even start a relationship with him. I told him that he has every right to end up with whomever he wants and that I have always respected his culture and his values but he did not have a right to play with someone's mind or heart like this. I asked him why were we building on something that was never there to begin with and all he could do was tell me he felt like shitt.



I am not one of these ignorant non-Armenian girls who doesn't understand the deep rooted cultural believes of Armenians. I understand their views on marriage and preservation of an ethnic identity. I highly respect his culture and identify with it because it is very similar, if not identical, to my own Spanish culture. With that said, I have taken the time to learn not just about the culture, but the history and the story of Armenia in addition to the eastern Armenian dialect. I have always been of the belief that your children should know where they came from and should take pride in their roots. For this reason, I want to be able to speak to them in Armenian and a lot of that burden falls upon a mother to teach them. I have done all that I can from learning to speak, read, and write Armenian to learning to cook their cuisine and now I'm left wondering.....what should I do.



I broke up with him after his revelation and told him to stop wasting his time and mine if in the end he wants to end up with an Armenian. I told him I understand why he feels the way he does but I told him I was not one of these random *** uncultured non-Armenian girls. He's seen me for who I am and knows that the only thing that sets me apart from an Armenian girl is my blood, and that is the one thing that I cannot change.



I've been miserable since that day, I'm absolutely heart broken. It doesn't feel right not to be with him. He's tried to talk to me since but I told him that if he cares about me, he will just leave me alone and let me heal. Last night, he came over and he told me he didn't feel right about all of this. We're both heart broken but like I told him, you seem to have made up your mind about what you want and if after two years you couldn't come to change your mind about it, then nothing is going to change two years from now. I told him I was hurt that he didn't tell me about how he felt until now and he said he was kind of in denial about it. In response to the future he said he didn't know if he really felt that way or if it was just something that was ingrained in his head from his youth. He told me I was everything to him and that he didn't want to lose me and he wanted to give it another chance. I told him that no matter what he was saying, I wasn't ever going to turn Armenian and he had to decide in his heart if that was something he could live with. I told him to think about not just now but later when kids came in the picture and asked him if he would feel less Armenian if they had an Armenian upbringing but did not have 100% full blood. I asked him to consider also the marriage, the events, the family gatherings and to really think it through.



A few hours ago he came back and said that he wanted to give it another chance. I'm a very logical and rational minded person but when it comes to this, I don't know what to do or where to go from here. I know my self worth and know that I have given my all to show him how much I am willing to do to. I also know that I won't ever become Armenian no matter how much I do or how hard I work to give him the life he's known.



So given all of that, I want to know from those of you that have ever been there, if you think his heart is going to change and we deserve another chance?
Need advice from Armenians?
I am sorry you are going through this very tough and complicated sitiuation, it really sucks. You seem to be a very smart girl. I am armenian and i don't know everything ur ex is going through but i definitley understand it. its very obvious he loves u, but usually that is not enough. at the end of the day it will be his decision whether he is willing or not to marry a non armenian girl, but what u also gotta understand is that family must play a big role in his life, whether he wants to admit it or not, how his family is willing to handle plays a big role in how that makes him feel about ur relationship, obviously there are some families who are able to handle it better than others but heres a couple of questions u should think about.





Has he introduced u to his parents, or siblings?



Has he taken u to restaurant parties where all his family was there?



If the answer is no, that might be a problem, if the answer is yes, how did u feel when u were there, I mean how did u REALLY feel?



I think he wants to be with u but he needs to really find out whether he is willing to marry a non armenian girl before anything else. If he can answer that question to u without hesitation, give the relationship another shot, if he can't just give it some time and time will tell u many things.



I think its very sweet that u have done ur research about the armenian culture and are willing to be more familiar with it and upbring ur children accordingly. Be strong and life will bring u the right path in due time.

:)
Need advice from Armenians?
I think you have to give him another possibility.
My heart goes out to you. You have obviously gone way out of your way to make this work with him. He really has to accept and be alright with the fact that you are non-Armenian. Unless that happens giving it another shot is just going to be harder.You should never be made to feel 2nd rate or not good enough for him or his family. I'm not saying that's how he made you feel, I'm just generally speaking. I don't think you should give him another chance unless he is willing to be accepting of your non-Armenian blood 100% and be happy knowing that your kids will be still have a mother who is dedicated to teaching them about Armenian culture perhaps even more than other Armenian women. If he accepts that, then I'm sure you will have that happiness that most can only dream about.

I personally just recently started seeing an Armenian guy. We get along like a house on fire so much so that its scary. We know that we can make each other happy and the possibilities of us having love and personal happiness is very real. Problem : He just told me he already has a gf who is Armenian who he cannot see a future with but is trying to adjust with because she is Armenian. He has tried to date many Armenian women and has not found that one. I have obviously stopped seeing him I would never take some other woman's man. What is so sad is that because of what is ingrained into one's mind as a child from parents, it makes it so difficult to chose love and happiness over nationalism. Yes their culture is important to maintain and keep alive, but at the cost of true love?

Good luck. Be strong. Don't give up your sense of self worth for anyone. I hope he comes around.
Well Im armenian and armenian parents always want their children to marry armenians or russians.
i am an armenian girl and i am dating a non- Armenian guy. i love him with all my heart. i dnt care what my family has to say. i respect their input but that is all. my situation is different from yours but if he hasnt introduced you to his family and friends then i dont think you should be with him. If hes letting culture and family get in the way then its not worth it. Armenian men listent to their mother more than their wives/girlfriend so if %26quot;mom%26quot; has problem with you he will have a problem with you. i dnt wanna scare you away from him but if he loves and wants to be with then give him another chance. i know what he is going through. its tough but if u guys have had an open relationship where his parents know then there is no reason for him to bring up culture. i hope that helps. good luck

Please give me some help with Yahoo Chatroom Booters?

Hello,



I am in serious, dire need for some very kind and generous computer tech person out there in Yahoo Questions/ Answers Land to please be totally understanding and compassionate and willing to help with my problem First, I will explain what is going on. The, I will ask my question. OK? Here goes:



Lately it has gotten to where almost everytime I enter certain Yahoo chat rooms ( Wisconsin Room 1, 2, and 5, there are either a group of people or there is a person that just feels compelled to run these programs called booter programs, and they boot me out of the room. And I will get back in the room, and right away they do it again. For several different days they seem to do it all day and half the night, un til I either just give up and am extremely frustrated, or they just end up leaving. And many times during this, they also either hack into my computer some way, or just into my Yahoo Messenger, but in either case, they end up locking my Yahoo Messenger ID. They do this by changing my password some way. Then when I try to sign back in, it says I have entered the wrong password. So, I will try to change my password so I can get in, and somehow they managed to even change my secret question. Secret question is a certian question and answer that is picked by you and Only you, that once you answer it correctly, it is supposed to let you change your password so you can get back in that way. But, it doesn't work, because they have changed your secret question and answer. And this is getting to be extremely annoying and frustrating. I have even been so far as to delete and reinstall my Yahoo Messenger several times in the same day to see if that fixes it, but it doesn't I have also called the local police department and reported these illegal hacking activities, and all they do is give me a number to the FBI to report it. So I will call to report it, and all i get is a recording; never get to talk to anyone. And also, I have called Yahoo's own Corporate Office in beautiful Sunnyvale, California and spoke with their personnel on this negativity and hacking. and believe it or not, Yahoo's own personnel can't even assist me or tell me how to fix their own site issues. Nor do they offer to assist me remotely or anything, and when I have asked, they just blow me off. So far I have not gotten any help at all. I have even put several different firewalls and blocking programs on my computer that swears they block bootrers and hackers and other negativity, but they fail to block anything except what I Want to do. Then they have no problem at all blocking those things. I know this is long, so please bare with me. I am very frustrated, and I still have just a little bit to type here. Also, i have spent countless and endless hours, days, and nights even searching online for these anti-booter programs that I keep hearing about that are so good, but I cant sem to find anything even close to what others claim they have on theirs. Can you tell that I am very stressed out over this yet? ( smiles)

Anyway, it came to pass, just as I had suspected would happen, and also was unsuccessful ate preventing or even getting any help from the personnell that could have and that has the position and tools to help me; it came to pass that one day, my wife had some business to do with the bank over the phone. Well, when she called the bank, she very surprisingly and seriously upsettingly found out that our checking account had been wiped clean, and even at that, we owed the bank about $1500.00 in NSF fees, along with tha money for items the bank covered for us( we have nsf draft protection). All this totalled a whopping $4000.00 at least. We assured the bank that we never bought any of the stuff that was listed as bought. Someone had hit us with that dredded identity theft for our first time. That person had some how managed to get our checking account info, and then they went bezerk with shopping. Well after it was all investigated and everything, which we knew would happen, the bank did indeed replace all our mo ney and also wipe clean the NSF fees that we had been wrongly charged. But it did take some time and was very frustrating, and we also had to go through the process of starting a whole new account and of course, closing our old one.. then wait for the debit cards, etc.,,

Well I am finally at the end of this now, so here is my question:



are there any people or is there anyone out there in yahoo land that knows of where I can get a good legitimate Yahoo Chatroom Anti-booter/ anti- hacker program(s)? Believe me, if you help, your efforts Will Not be wasted or unappreciated. Or, and also, if there are people or if there is a techie person out here that actually is willing to donate to me a good Yahoo Chatroom anti-booter program and anti-hacker program disk? If so, please, please let me know by responding to this very long question here, and I can give you m
Please give me some help with Yahoo Chatroom Booters?
get this and update it regularly: http://www.yazakpro.com/yazak/

I need to change the identity of my computer as much as possible?

PLEASE ONLY SERIOUS ANSWERS OR ANSWER IF YOU CAN HELP ME!



I know that your computer has specific identifying mechanisms,(internally) like the IP address and other things like that. I need to change the name of my computer. For instance, when I go to command prompt, my name displays in the command line. How can I change this? Whenever my husband set up my laptop, he put my name there. What things can I do to semi alter the identification of my computer, besides buying a new one? I want to change the name, possibly change the IP (some say you can, and others say you can't). We have a router for wireless and a desktop that is plugged into the wall. I sent an email from a gmail account about some things that shouldn't be happening at my job and I'm afraid that the person may get a hold to the email that was sent and try to trace it. It was sent from a fake email that isn't listed as my name. But even so, please help me with ways that I can unidentify my computer in any way. I am very paranoid and nervous. Please Help!
I need to change the identity of my computer as much as possible?
on the desktop right click on My Computer, click on properties, then computer name, then click on the button on the bottom that says change.

then just enter the new name and ok then your all set.
I need to change the identity of my computer as much as possible?
First thing you need to do is relax. If you sent an email from a gmail account and as long as you dont work for the government or the mob then you have nothing to worry about. No one out there is going to go through so much trouble to see who is sending the email and the only ones capable of doing so would be hackers. Trust me you have nothing to worry about.

Need to Change Computer Identity?

PLEASE ONLY SERIOUS ANSWERS OR ANSWER IF YOU CAN HELP ME!



I know that your computer has specific identifying mechanisms,(internally) like the IP address and other things like that. I need to change the name of my computer. For instance, when I go to command prompt, my name displays in the command line. How can I change this? Whenever my husband set up my laptop, he put my name there. What things can I do to semi alter the identification of my computer, besides buying a new one? I want to change the name, possibly change the IP (some say you can, and others say you can't). We have a router for wireless and a desktop that is plugged into the wall. I sent an email from a gmail account about some things that shouldn't be happening at my job and I'm afraid that the person may get a hold to the email that was sent and try to trace it. It was sent from a fake email that isn't listed as my name. But even so, please help me with ways that I can unidentify my computer in any way. I am very paranoid and nervous. Please Help!
Need to Change Computer Identity?
to change your computer name......go to the deskto and right click

on my compute....properties ....computer nam ...choose any name to your computer and click ok.

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to change your ip download browser (opera 9.51)then you must browse

with proxy,for this aim download (UltraSurf 8.9) with two ways,you

now unseen and you ip is not the real ip,to emphasise vist some sites

like www.showmyip.com

www.whatismyipaddress.com

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to hide your computer from network just:

start...run...write(cmd)...press ente..appears to you screen of MSDOS

write(net config server).....press enter

write net config server\hidden:yes

write to the last time(net config server)press enter

if you see yes...it means that your computer is hidden

ask what you want iam under your service.

guy myspace

remove sunless tanning spray

Sociology Project: Please answer, I need a certain amount of people's answers :o)?

Tell me EVERYTHING you would have to do to change your behavior if you were a member of a different gender (man or woman) NOT a member of a different sex- in our U.S. Culture.



Basically if you were biologically a woman and wanted to be perceived as a man... what changes would need to be made? Same with for men, if you wanted to be perceived by others as a woman, what changes would need to be made?



Keep in mind APPEARANCE, ATTITUDE, or BEHAVIOR (feel free to add other categories) those are just some to get you thinking.



One example: a man that wants to be perceived as a woman would try to lose weight to fit the %26quot;thin%26quot; idea of being a woman.



A woman that wants to be perceived as a man would act tough (no emotion, strong willed and such).



**Think of how you would help an alien (who has no gender identity) appear to be a man or woman in the United States.



Back up your tips with reasoning as to why you included them



:o) Thank you so much, i'm completing a project!!!
Sociology Project: Please answer, I need a certain amount of people's answers :o)?
As a women I see us being nurturing and gentle so to become a man I would have to retrain myself to be selfish (not selfish but put myself first) and to think directly and definitely. Women can often get side tracked with 'what if...' or things that 'could be' where as I see men only deal with substance that they can see. I would have to let go of inconsecurities, romance, and putting others concerns first. Men tend to be self sured, self reliant, self concerned, self trained and self maintained. Socially I would have to loosen up and be able to joke like a man, put downs, bathroom hummor and all. The hardest would to be to clear my mind and think of nothing like when a man is asked 'what are you thinking?' they truthfully answer 'nothing'.

In college I tried to look like a man for a short while. I don't think I was fooling anyone but I would have to change my hair, baseball caps, maybe hide behind masculine glasses, mens baggy clothes in layers and slouch, strut and be aloft. It would be funny to try to be a metrosexual male, that might be more convincing.

hope this helps and good luck (see female response!)
Sociology Project: Please answer, I need a certain amount of people's answers :o)?
i would be a girl, that was hot. healthy. took care of herself. but i wouldnt be a *****.
i don't know what to tell ya
lol i had to do this last semester too so i think i can contribute

wow i so coulda made my class 100 times easier if i thought of using Y!A



I would need to tone up meaning I'd probably have an extra payment for gym membership because realistically girls always try to achieve the perfect body portrayed by the media. I'd need to be more opinionated and express my feelings more because girls are sassy and like to talk about things and you would need your own strong opinions on stuff. I'd probably be more needy and asking my parents for a lot more without being so considerate because girls always get what they want or try the best they can to. I'd have to get used to spending money without knowing how to save living check by check for clothes, make-up, accessories, and whatever else that makes a girl feel better about themselves. I'd need to learn how to cry more often in difficult situations and to get myself out of a jam (getting a ticket, getting in trouble by the parents, etc).



That about does it for me. GL on your hw.
I would advise an alien to take on the persona of a female.

Because they wouldn't know anything.

A male is expected to know something about everything, at least enough that someone doesn't call, 'b@ll$hyt'.

A female is expected or can easily defer any questions by giggling and saying,'I don't know'. And if they are pressured they can just ask a male to explain it to them. Nothing out of line there...
Well, if I wanted to be perceived as a man I guess I would have to start by the obvious of changing my appearance, ie. cutting my hair short, trying to grow facial hair, donning on menswear, etc. I would probably start eating a lot of protein to bulk and have heavy muscle definition as men are suppose to be bulky and strong. But I think the most essential key to becoming a man would be to change my behaviour. I think one would have to be more confident, straightforward, and take more risk. I think I wouldn't have any more inhibitions about sex because the social stimulus that is connected with women and sexuality would be gone as it is socially acceptable for a man to sleep with as many women as they like.

Please answer logically, its for a sociology project people!?

Tell me EVERYTHING you would have to do to change your behavior if you were a member of a different gender (man or woman) NOT a member of a different sex- in our U.S. Culture.



Basically if you were biologically a woman and wanted to be perceived as a man... what changes would need to be made? Same with for men, if you wanted to be perceived by others as a woman, what changes would need to be made?



Keep in mind APPEARANCE, ATTITUDE, or BEHAVIOR (feel free to add other categories) those are just some to get you thinking.



One example: a man that wants to be perceived as a woman would try to lose weight to fit the %26quot;thin%26quot; idea of being a woman.



A woman that wants to be perceived as a man would act tough (no emotion, strong willed and such).



**Think of how you would help an alien (who has no gender identity) appear to be a man or woman in the United States.



Back up your tips with reasoning as to why you included them



:o) Thank you so much, i'm completing a project!!!
Please answer logically, its for a sociology project people!?
i am a male and this is what i would do to try and be a women

APPEARANCE:

1.because i have short hair i would grow it out to a girlish length because women typically have long hair.



2.i would be women's clothes because if your going to be a women you definately need to look the part.



3.cosmetically i would get everything waxed or at least shaven to preven me from looking like a hairy old transexual prostitute.



4.wear makeup to give me that girlish %26quot;tent%26quot; i guess



5.never wear shorts so that my manly legs will be covered up



ATTITUDE/BEHAVIOR



1.i would probably start to be more helpful and kind (not that im not now) and in a sense kind of motherly in a way to put of like feminie like feel i guess you could say



2.i would try not to do manly things like sitting with my legs spread apart or lean on a wall or desk or possibly even burt or fart



3.to be more girly i guess i would have to be a little bit more %26quot;flaky%26quot; (not to be sexest) but less to the point and more comforting in deliverence of information or other like things



4.always a positive attitutude because only fat ugly obeses women have bad attitudes.



5.some how make my voice more girly i guess through use of testosterone.



good luck with your project

I need at least 10 peoples answers PLEASE!!!! The more the better though!?

Tell me EVERYTHING you would have to do to change your behavior if you were a member of a different gender (man or woman) NOT a member of a different sex- in our U.S. Culture.



Basically if you were biologically a woman and wanted to be perceived as a man... what changes would need to be made? Same with for men, if you wanted to be perceived by others as a woman, what changes would need to be made?



Keep in mind APPEARANCE, ATTITUDE, or BEHAVIOR (feel free to add other categories) those are just some to get you thinking.



One example: a man that wants to be perceived as a woman would try to lose weight to fit the %26quot;thin%26quot; idea of being a woman.



A woman that wants to be perceived as a man would act tough (no emotion, strong willed and such).



**Think of how you would help an alien (who has no gender identity) appear to be a man or woman in the United States.



Back up your tips with reasoning as to why you included them



:o) Thank you so much, i'm completing a project!!!
I need at least 10 peoples answers PLEASE!!!! The more the better though!?
well 1st i would become more into my strongness and not care bout much cause guys r just way laid back
I need at least 10 peoples answers PLEASE!!!! The more the better though!?
First i would make sure that i ended my life.

Second I would
Generally, women tend to be more sensitive than men, and they are also quick to over react a lot more often.

So, I think that the biggest change that a female would have to make when changing her perception is personality traits.

She'd need to become more laid back and care-free.
om yah in my eyes thats against god changing gender but please go answer mine

For those of you who still believe that being gay is predetermined by genetics......?

Does this little statement change your mind any? I am not anti anyone BTW just a simple harmless question.

For decades, the APA has not considered homosexuality a psychological disorder, while other professionals in the field consider it to be a %26quot;gender-identity%26quot; problem. But the new statement, which appears in a brochure called %26quot;Answers to Your Questions for a Better Understanding of Sexual Orientation %26amp; Homosexuality,%26quot; states the following:



%26quot;There is no consensus among scientists about the exact reasons that an individual develops a heterosexual, bisexual, gay or lesbian orientation. Although much research has examined the possible genetic, hormonal, developmental, social, and cultural influences on sexual orientation, no findings have emerged that permit scientists to conclude that sexual orientation is determined by any particular factor or factors. Many think that nature and nurture both play complex roles....%26quot;



That contrasts with the APA%26#039;s statement in 1998: %26quot;There is considerable recent evidence to suggest that biology, including genetic or inborn hormonal factors, play a significant role in a person%26#039;s sexuality.%26quot;

%26quot;People need to understand that the %26#039;gay gene%26#039; theory has been one of the biggest propaganda boons of the homosexual movement over the last 10 [or] 15 years,%26quot; he points out. %26quot;Studies show that if people think that people are born homosexual they%26#039;re much less likely to resist the gay agenda.%26quot;

With the new information from the APA, Barber wonders if the organization will admit that homosexuals who want to change can change.



%26quot;It%26#039;s irrefutable from a medical standpoint that people can leave the homosexual lifestyle,%26quot; he argues. %26quot;Homosexuality is defined by behavior. Untold thousands of people have found freedom from that lifestyle through either reparative therapy or through -- frankly, most effectively -- a relationship with Jesus Christ.%26quot;



LaBarbera agrees. %26quot;Change through Christ is possible -- and it%26#039;s one of the most heartwarming aspects of the whole gay debate,%26quot; he shares. %26quot;Many men and women have come out of homosexuality, mostly through a relationship with Jesus Christ. The fact that these professional organizations will not study that, will not acknowledge that, shows how %26#039;in the tank%26#039; they are for the homosexual movement.%26quot;



LaBarbera stresses that even though elites will not recognize the change, that does not mean the change does not exist. In fact, both Barber and LaBarbera believe that God changes people through Christ -- regardless of the sin.
For those of you who still believe that being gay is predetermined by genetics......?
I have a very close relationship with Jesus. God loves me SO much. And I love him and want to make him proud!



That being said, I feel fine being bisexual.
For those of you who still believe that being gay is predetermined by genetics......?
You%26#039;ve quoted two nutty, right-wing religious fanatics. How could that possibly change the thinking of anyone with a real scientific mind? This is just silly.
A.) I want some hard evidence like statistical numbers.



B.) Even and especially if it is a choice, it%26#039;s my choice. Not yours. I don%26#039;t believe in your religion--never will. What right and what privileged does anyone have to call my lifestyle a sin? I am not hurting anyone. Leave me alone.



C.) They have done studies where they compare the brains of straight females to those of gay men and the brains of straight men to gay females.



The gay males%26#039; brains were very similar to the straight females.

The gay females brains were very similar to the straight males.



If it%26#039;s a matter of brain formation, how is that a choice? Neurological studies and MRIs don%26#039;t lie.



Quit pushing your religion, please. A %26quot;relationship with jesus%26quot; has no medical value. How many people have died of disease/cancer/etc. %26quot;Having a relationship with jesus.%26quot; didn%26#039;t save them.



It%26#039;s fine if you%26#039;re religious; as long as it;s fine if I%26#039;m gay.



Edit: Check out the source. How do you explain those pictures that says my brain looks like a straight woman%26#039;s? Those are fMRI pictures. This study is reputable. Yours is from some quack.



You absolutely are backdoor pushing some religion.



%26quot;Belief in Jesus Christ%26quot;

%26quot;Sin%26quot;



You grow up. I%26#039;m sick of people looking at me differently because of stuff like this. It%26#039;s stupid and I%26#039;d beat that study%26#039;s bias author in an scientific or legal argument. There is a mountain of evidence showing that homosexuality is influenced by prenatal hormonal levels. You find one bias report and assume it%26#039;s correct. Not a chance. The medical community has numerous studies and they%26#039;re easy to find if you actually care to look. You don%26#039;t and never did.



I am offended not because there%26#039;s something wrong with me but because there%26#039;s something wrong with bigotry. I%26quot;m offended because that bigotry is making my life more difficult for no reason whatsoever.



Bottom line, the author of this study is a bigot and you%26#039;re nearly as bad for quoting him with any presumption of credibility.



%26quot;Change through christ is possible.%26quot; What a line of offensive crap propoganda with 0 proof. So if I join your religion you can make me not gay? Bull.



You ARE pushing religion as a %26quot;cure%26quot; for homosexuality. It requires no cure. You require tolerance.



If this ever becomes accepted once I pass the bar I will fight it tooth and nail, because I%26#039;m sick of being discriminated against. I%26#039;ve lost a job and a home because of people like this.
scientists know nothing. i was born gay, i KNOW it, i%26#039;ve lived it. it%26#039;s much like the afterlife and God, there is absolutely no scientific proof of either, but i KNOW they exist. i find ot both interesting and appalling that people , christians in particular, use the no proof line to try and demonize me. perhaps y%26#039;all should pray for more understanding and practice the unconditional love that christ did. also these same people use the erroneous argument that homosexuality only exists in man, while it has been prov-en in most of the species on earth. i also find it disingenuous that these negative questions are always prefaced by i%26#039;m not against anyone, hhhmppphhhh a VERY passive aggressive tact.
You don%26#039;t identify who published the brochure, and quoting a nut who believes that religion can change people%26#039;s sexual orientation pretty well shoots your credibility to pieces.



In point of fact, the APA%26#039;s 1998 statement is more correct, and there has been additional science further solidifying those claims.



By the way, just what the heck is this mythical %26quot;gay agenda%26quot; anyway? The fact one of the quotes you use contains that phrase is a dead givaway.



Frankly, the quotes you use (it%26#039;s still unclear if they come from the brochure you mention or not) are openly anti-gay and are patently at odds with much of the scientific community.
I think these statements are biased towards Christianity, a group looking for every way possible to continue to lable homosexuality as immoral.



I personally do NOT believe homosexuality is a choice. As far as what the brochure says, thats fine with me. We decades if not hundreds of years from understanding human sexuality, fully understanding the brain, or fully understanding psychology. Just because I cant prove its innate or cant prove its genetics doesnt change my mind. You cant prove God exists, but here you are furthering what you believe to be his agenda.



I believe a homosexual can choose to be celibate, or choose heterosexual behavior even though they are homosexual, but I do NOT believe sexual orientation can be changed, and I believe that asking them to do so is asking them to live a lie.



But even if it is a choice, I dont believe it is immoral, nor do I believe it is sin. So what if it is a choice? I dont find anything immoral in it or with it. I say that because there is evidence that it is a natural occurance across several species, and consenting adults that are the same sex in a relationship together does not hurt themselves, nor other people, nor any children involved. Therefore, its not immoral. But you are pushing that its sin, based on ideals of a book that has been mistranslated, from a God that you cant prove exists.



If I post some quotes about the inconsistences of God and evidence for the mistranslation of the Bible, will you change *your* mind???
How ignorant and irresponsible of you to post such garbage when it is perfectly clear that no matter what the reality happens to be, a christian stance always has been and always will continue to be to view the LGBT as sinners that need to change.



Keep your f**king made up religion out of my life, my home, my marriage, and my government.



You should be ashamed for posting this. And, you make the claim that you aren%26#039;t anti-anyone. Bullsh*t!







EDIT: You want facts - it%26#039;s called my life. What you don%26#039;t believe it? Yet you believe in the Bible and John Smith. Why take their word, and not mine?!?





Why being upset and hostile? Maybe because people like you continue to tell me my whole life that what I have always felt and know isn%26#039;t true. How the hell do you know? Have you walked in my shoes? NO. Are you gay? NO. Have you tried to change your sexuality? NO.



Those that don%26#039;t know about the realities of our lives, shouldn%26#039;t be talking about it.
I find it odd that you begin your question and discussion with the APA statements in mind, and then suddenly there is a quote by someone named Barbers, who believes change in Christ is possible for homosexuals. The way you linked both statements in the middle suggests to me you intended for it to be that way. That is a disservice to both the scientific and religious communities.



The latter part of your text focuses solely on how one religion can %26quot;change gay people%26quot;.



I certainly do not understand why you even began with APA statements, when all we ended up with is a treatise on how the Bible can %26quot;cure%26quot; gay people.



Science and religion are 2 separate fields, with mostly disastrous results when combined. Wasn%26#039;t it the Church who kept insisting that the earth was flat, and anyone proclaiming otherwise was a heretic? They also claimed that the earth was the center of the universe, not the sun. As far as scientific inquiries go, the Church has had a dismal record of factually based thinking resulting from observation and experimentation, so I think you will understand my skepticism at any %26quot;solution%26quot; they can bring out for any scientific question.



I think the more interesting question is, what is the origin of heterosexuality? Where is the research that says that heterosexuality is either an inborn, innate characteristic or something that can be chosen? Since the critics of homosexuality (it sounds silly, like a bunch of people criticizing people with green eyes) like to say we only %26quot;learned%26quot; being gay (From whom? From our mostly straight parents?!?) it would be fair to assume that heterosexuality follows the same course - it is only learned.



The deafening silence in this area belies the true intent of people trying to %26quot;explain%26quot; homosexuality. It does NOT matter how we became gay, what matters is that we are, and are being discriminated upon.
Here are the facts :



1 - The APA has removed homosexuality from the list of diseases and disorders because it did not follow the 3 Ds. Something is specified as a disease if it causes distress to the person, if it is dangerous to the person or to other people, and after having world professional psychologists had sessions with a large number of homosexuals, they found out that these people weren%26#039;t stressed and they weren%26#039;t unhappy about their lives and they weren%26#039;t hurting anybody, not even themselves. This is the study that resulted in the APA removing homosexuality from the list of diseases.



2 - There is another study that has found that professional psychologists that have tried to treat homosexual and reverse homosexuals%26#039; sexuality simply harmed them. Nothing positive came out from these sessions except harming these individuals. And this study shows that 88% of these homosexuals were not reversed to heterosexuality, while 22% were reversed to heterosexual behavior but not heterosexual desire. This 22% admitted to still having heterosexual desire.



3 - Genetic studies takes decades. As we%26#039;re dealing with humans, not rats. Scientists cannot make people reproduce in order to experiment, and these experiments take years, as people live long years, they%26#039;ll have to wait to find out. While with rats, they can make them mate and in matter of months they can experiment and re-experiment.



4 - There is a study going on right now that is coming to the conclusion that sexual orientation is genetic, meaning it is predetermined genetically. There are also studies that have shown that homosexuality is biology, starting from before birth until the brain is formed, as it%26#039;s found that homosexuals brains differ in its reaction to a sexual stimulation from heterosexual brains. This study had done scans of the brains of gay men, to compare with straight women, before a stimulation and after a stimulation; and there showed a similarity in their reactions. While the brains of straight men didn%26#039;t have a reaction to this same stimulation which was a male sexual stimulation related to the senses. The same with the brains of lesbian women who turned out to react the same way the brains of straight men did.



5 - There are homosexuals who are religious. Keep in mind Christianity is not the only religion on our planet. Having said that, there are religions that have accepted homosexuality as natural. There are even Christian churches that have accepted homosexuals and these churches do perform same sex marriages.



6 - Science cannot study religion. It did dig into it and came up with a result that didn%26#039;t satisfy religions. There is no proof that religion exists. Religion is an idea, those books are written by people ages ago. That bible tells you not to eat pork, not to work on sundays. It also condemns in 300 verses heterosexual sex. It says a woman should be the servant to her man, that a woman%26#039;s place is in the house.



7 - Of course change is possible. Change of action is always possible. But change of desire is not. A homosexual can decide not to be with the same sex anymore, and he can force himself to be with the opposite sex, but the desire doesn%26#039;t go away. Statistics have shown that. Read back my 2nd point made.



8 - There is no such thing as a gay agenda. If there was, all homosexuals would know. That is an excuse given by heterosexuals to look down on homosexuals and discriminate them.



9- Where are the studies pointing out to the fact that heterosexuality is innate and genetic? In the cases of young teenagers, there is something called heteronormativity. It%26#039;s basically seeing everybody being heterosexual and following the crowd, out of fear of being discriminated again and pushed away.



10 - You wanted statistics. Here they are. You wanted proofs. They are here as well. I%26#039;ve got it all here for you: details studies and statistics proving that being gay is biological and genetic.
this is the stupidest thing i ever heard..sure I can choose to never have sex with another man again...but guess what?..I would still be gay..just like if a straight guy never had sex with a woman again he would still be straight...when will ANYONE understand that gay is more than just sex.......

question for you..When did you CHOOSE to be straight?...in order for your arguement that it is a choice to hold any merit, then that would mean that straights would HAVE to be attracted to BOTH sexes and CHOSE to be straight...if being gay was not a choice for straight people or an %26quot;option%26quot; than you have no decision to make...it does not take a scientist to see that....now go back to thumping your hypocritcal bible..and ask an intelligent question next time..
Your treatise is flawed. You site %26quot;authorities%26quot; who make money from scamming families into believing that their poor sinner can be %26quot;redeemed%26quot; by their organizations. Then they put the kid through psychological, emotional and sometimes physical torture to %26quot;heal%26quot; them. Shame on you.



Scripture says %26quot;God is Love%26quot;. If you do not have love for those around you, if you hate gays - you do not have God in you. God would be so much happier if people like you would quit hating folks in His name. His son loves me enough to have died for me, even while I%26#039;m sleeping with my man.

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Do you become more chauvinist or more feminist after a few drinks?

How do your perceptions change?



Especially interested in answers with reference to male bonding, cultural identity and how disinhibition alters behavior.



Also the fact alcohol raises female testosterone production, so



Do you become more chauvinist or more feminist after a few drinks?
Do you become more chauvinist or more feminist after a few drinks?
I'm seeing an interesting pattern in these answers. Whatever parts of your brain contain your core beliefs about other people's worth must be separate from whatever parts are affected by alcohol. Very interesting.



Like many of the above answerers, I don't think my beliefs are altered in that area when I've had a few. I just laugh louder.
Do you become more chauvinist or more feminist after a few drinks?
After 3 buckets of tea in the morning, I become thoughtful- does that count?
Neither. More hedonist(ic).
Don't drink, so it doesn't count for me.
Chauvinism can apply to either sex/gender actually, it's just excessive or prejudiced loyalty or support for one's own cause, group, or gender. I stay the same.
Once I start feeling tipsy, I'm not really caring one way or another about feminism. I do become chatty and very friendly and agreeable. And I'm sure I think I'm coming up with such profound thoughts and statements. That is, until I wake up the next morning and remember all of the stupid things I said the night before. I'm not an angry or confrontational drunk.
No! I'm just fun!
No. Actually, while sober some of my friends and I sarcastically joke around with each other (crudely un-PC, hehe), referencing to each other's culture(s) and gender, it's hilarious.

When I am buzzed or tipsy - I become giggly and cutesy, when I have been drunk (which is not common) - laugh a-lot and talk more in Spanish than usual.
Hmmm, after a few drinks I become very outgoing and start laughing uproariously at men's jokes and then will even chime in with some dirty ones of my own that would make a sailor blush.

Have been known to drink men under the table as well and say to blokes %26quot;Check out the rack on that chick!%26quot;(even though I'm not a lesbian) so I think I'm a bit of a male chauvinist stuck in a chicks body.

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I don't drink anymore. I would become less Buddhists. That's for sure. ROFL.
Well, when I drink a few glass of chablis or champagne on dinner,I don't remember acting as a chauvinist or feminist ,I am a conformist tipsy......

How does one forgive when one still hurts?

How do you move on when you no there is nothing else you can do? When you still live with your mother? How do you go above and beyond and let it go because it's never going to change? And how do you seperate and form your own identity?
How does one forgive when one still hurts?
I've done that in the past 3 years. You need to find yourself again. Me and my ex-wife split and I had a difficult time getting on my feet. But I eventuly did and everything is great now. I'm going back to college and trying to make my life better. Maybe a little to prove I can. It may take time but don't give up and always remember you are a great person and can do great things.
How does one forgive when one still hurts?
You make a list of all the people you have hurt. You might realize the one who hurt you is not so bad and that you should forgive them.
Swallow your pride, just keep your civility. Once something is said it can never be taken back, but you only live one life.
Well, there is a lot t be said for being an independent person you should try it sometime.

Changing a surname because of desire?

I'd like to know if anyone has ever known of someone who changed their surname out of desire, or if any of you have done it. I realize that in the UK you can change your last name legally by deed poll, but unfortunately I live in the USA.



I think I have excellent reasons for wanting to change the name.



I love my family but our surname makes me extremely uncomfortable and I've struggled to accept it all my life but I've been unhappy for 29 years. I have a REALLY common first name/last name. It really upsets me and causes me a lot of emotional pain to have a common full name. I could deal with having a common FIRST name but a common full name is so embarrassing. I have no sense of identity and I'm always getting lost in the crowd. I want something to uniquely identify just me.



I've never identified with our last name. I've always felt really uncomfortable using it and I don't feel like MYSELF. It's more than just I don't like it. Having to answer to, speak, or sign the last name causes me emotional pain and makes me very uncomfortable. I hate going to work or going to the bank because I dread being addressed by the surname. I feel like I was meant to have a special last name. I'm not entirely sure why it bothers me, but I have struggled all my life to accept it and I CAN'T.



I've actually thought about getting married just to get rid of it but I don't think I could go through with that. If I do marry, I want it to be for love. I have no plans of getting married anytime soon, maybe I'll never get married.



I don't want to change my first name because a name doesn't really have sentimental value if you picked it out for yourself. I really don't like my name (Sara) but my mom thought she was doing something nice for me.



My other reason is that I'm a musician. Even though I'm in a different field now I'd like to play music professionally. I realize it won't be easy but I have been told by objective, even brutally honest people that I'm a fabulous guitar player and I could be famous someday. My name does NOT sound like an artist. I must have a name that sounds a bit more artistic. I don't just want to go by a stage name, I want an official name to go by.



My last reason is my heritage... I have the most all-American, waspy name in the world. There's nothing wrong with being American or a wasp. It's just that I identify with the Spanish part of my heritage more than american culture. I have Hispanic ancestry but people are always assuming I don't because of our surname. Hispanic culture is practically half my life and I have Hispanic blood and it would mean everything to me to be able to take my Spanish ancestor's surname. I've studied abroad in Mexico and Spain and I had a VERY rough time readjusting to American culture and I became very depressed upon returning to the USA. I feel like a Spanish surname, especially my own ancestor's, would feel like ME.



I would like to do one of two things... either hyphenate a new name with my current surname, or just change my current surname to a family surname. I would like to take my Spanish ancestor's surname, but this person was adopted and I'm having a hard time finding out what the original surname was.



I DID found out that an ancestor's last name was King (I think we have black Irish ancestry?). I've always LOVED that last name. It's not Spanish (Irish I think?) but Ireland is awesome and King is a gorgeous name, it sounds regal, and classy and noble.



I don't think my familiy would be hurt because King is a family name. I think it's a shame that we have such a beautiful last name and that it just got lost. If I wanted to disassociate myself from my family then I would choose a completely unrelated name.



I would like to just legallly change it. I've told my family how I feel, that I love them but that having a common full name and always being lost in the crowd makes me miserable. I told them, %26quot;Mom, Dad, I really LOVE you a lot... but I hate my name and want to change it to an ancestor's name.%26quot;



The trouble is, I don't know what I'll do if the court gives me ****, which I'm so afraid they're going to do. I live in North Carolina and we have some stupid laws, and people here, for the most part, are mean and shitty (no offense to anyone). I don't know what I'll do if I have a hard time changing my name.



Is there any solution to this? I just can't accept the name... I've struggled to do it all my life and I'm so sick of being miserable. I just want to feel like ME.
Changing a surname because of desire?
You can quite easily change your name. Just talk to an attorney.

Ladies ... in today's modern world, what do you personally think about the female breast culture?

According to a study done from www.menshealth.com



735 women were asked about their thoughts on the current breast culture:



Do women with prominent breasts receive preferential treatment in the workplace?

- 49% said no

- 51% said yes



Do you think the male fascination with breasts is harmless or excessive?

- 72% said probably harmless

- 28% said probably excessive



Do you pay attention to how other women accentuate their breasts?

- 78% said yes

- 22% said no



How do you primarily perceive your breasts?

- 49% said key elements of my sexual identity

- 33% said merely parts of my body

- 10% said fashion accessories

- 8% said I don't think about them



Have you ever had an orgasm solely from breast play?

- 78% said no

- 22% said yes



If you could, how would you change your breasts?

- 43% said make them bigger

- 43% said no change

- 14% said make them smaller



During foreplay, where do you want attention focused?

- 44% said face-to-face

- 28% said your chest

- 28% said oral sex
Ladies ... in today's modern world, what do you personally think about the female breast culture?
Do women with prominent breasts receive preferential treatment in the workplace?



It depends on the workplace. In some places, they do. In others, they may be treated with less respect, partly on the erroneous assumption that they are there solely for their physical attributes.



Do you think the male fascination with breasts is harmless or excessive?



Can't it be excessive AND harmless? It's quite ridiculous and excessive but I don't think it's harmful necessarily.



Do you pay attention to how other women accentuate their breasts?



Only when they draw attention to them with tight fitting or low cut tops. Otherwise, I tend not to notice, despite being bisexual. (I much prefer other things.)



How do you primarily perceive your breasts?



Merely parts of my body though I am very aware of the effect they can have on others.



Have you ever had an orgasm solely from breast play?



Yes



If you could, how would you change your breasts?



No change, though in the past I've wished they were smaller. I've made peace with them now or just found better things to focus on.



During foreplay, where do you want attention focused?



I would hate for foreplay to be all focused on any one place, but if I had to choose from those, I'd choose face to face. Oral sex isn't just foreplay though. And @$$ play was absent from the options, a glaring oversight!
Ladies ... in today's modern world, what do you personally think about the female breast culture?
1 YES #2 YES AND YES #3 YES #4 I'M I WORRY MORE ABOUT MY TEEN DAUGHTER'S BREASTS THAN MY OWN. I BREAST FED AND THEY ARE SHOT. 5. ABSOLUTELY NOT 6. BREAST LIFT AND MAYBE A LITTLE BIGGER 7. D. ALL OF THE ABOVE AT SOME POINT DURING THE ACT.