One reason is that the full name is extremely common. At the library, bank, gym, etc., there are always five or six people with the same FULL name. Every school I麓ve ever attended (with the exception of uni, because I went to uni in another country)... there is always some other girl with the same name. There麓s even a movie character with the same full name as me!
A name is a part of your identity, and even though i realize I麓m a unique person, I have a name that says that I麓m some generic thing that was mass produced on an assembly line. I feel like a name should be something personal that you can cherish. A generic name isn麓t really special. I want a special name that uniquely identifies only me.
I love my family with my whole heart, but I can麓t stand their surname. I don麓t even know why I hate it. Other people don麓t see anything wrong with it, but it just sounds ugly and plain to me.
I麓ve hated the name as long as I can remember, and I麓ve struggled to accept it, but I麓m at the point where I can麓t stand it. I hate how the first and last names sound together... I can麓t stand to hear it, say it, or answer to it.
I麓ve never been able to identify with it and I keep having this feeling that I was meant to have a different name. I feel extremely uncomfortable when asked what my name is, because I feel like I麓m being forced to use someone else麓s ugly old sweater from the Good will. I just can麓t map myself onto the name.
There are people worse off than me, and I get that. I麓m grateful for the nice things I have, but I麓m not complacent... this is making me so unhappy, and I would just as soon do something about it rather than put up with it forever.
It麓s an extremely All American surname...
I am not putting American culture down, but I feel like an American surname isn麓t me. I love Hispanic culture... I had an Hispanic ancestor... I麓m not sure if they were Mexican or Spanish, but I identify more with that culture. People think it麓s odd that I would want a Hispanic surname when that麓s only a fraction of my heritage... but anglo is only a fraction of my heritage. I think I have more Irish ancestry than anything else, but I麓m not sure. I mean I can never claim to be Irish, Mexican or Spanish but those are the cultures that I still identify with and they麓re in my background.
One thing really makes me angry... I have met a lot of women who are American, with no Hispanic ancestry at all, who can麓t even speak Spanish, but they get to use a Spanish surname because they麓re married to a Hispanic guy. It really chaps my *** because I deserve a Spanish last name more than they do, and yet if I asked to be called a Spanish surname I would get into trouble. Yet they get to use a Spanish last name because they麓re married to a Latin guy.
what really makes me angry is that I was abandoned by a man I loved very much... his last name is very common in Mexico, but not in USA bc Hispanics are a minority here, and I LOVE his last name. I feel like I should be entitled to use his last name. I thought we were destined to be married, and if we had been married, I would be able to use it. Why should I get cheated out of a name? Why should these women get a privilege I don麓t have just because their marriage worked out?
I have gotten into trouble because I asked to be called my ex boyfriend麓s last name.
I worry that it will be hard for me to legally change my name, would it be possible to just go by something else?
What do you do if you hate your name so much that it causes you emotional pain?
change it then its not hard love, no need to write a story about!! get a life and sort it out............fool
What do you do if you hate your name so much that it causes you emotional pain?
why don't you find the translation of your name from English and write it out in Spanish???
my last name is Alam, for example. It's Arabic. But in Spanish it would be Banderas. Which means %26quot;Flag%26quot; in English.
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well someone told me something about if your 18 you can go to court or something and change your name legally there but i don't know if that's true i never check it out and about your last name i know getting married changed the woman's last name to there husbands other then that....its all i know
My best friend changed her name, first and last. I don't even know what her birth name was. So change it if you hate it. Oh and women who marry Hispanic men get to use their husband's last name because they are married, it isn't anything to get your knickers all up in a knot about...chill.
When you turn 18, change it. It really isn't that hard or expensive.
