I mean no offense to anyone who's been a victim of such a crime, but I would rather be raped than have to sign, answer to, or speak the surname again.
I would like to legally change it but worry that I'm gonna be hassled. I think my reasons are good... the name has been causing me emotional pain my whole life. I've struggled to accept it, but I CAN'T. It's made me miserable for years. Furthermore, I have a VERY plain, common full name and I don't have much of a name to uniquely identify me and I don't have a sense of identity. It's so embarrassing and I feel like a common person. It also bothers me because it cuts me off from a part of my heritage that I feel defines me as a person.
I've told my parents how I feel about it. I told them that, I just hate the name because I think it's an awful name.
I told them, %26quot;Mom, Dad, I LOVE you with my whole heart... but... our last name SUCKS!!! I've been unhappy all my life and want to change it. I want to pick a famly name so at least I won't be distancing myself from you.%26quot; They think I'm strange but they're not hurt. They know that it's an undesirable last name but they didn't hate it as much as I do.
This is my concern:
I want to legally change it but I'm worried that they'll deny my request. I dislike the name so much I'm almost willing to marry someone just to get rid of the hated last name. I know that's a terrible reason to marry someone and I'm not even ready to get married, I don't wanna give up my freedom and be tied down yet.
I live in Guilford County, North Carolina. North Carolina is a %26quot;hard%26quot; place to live, there are a lot of stupid laws here and they like to make things difficult for us here.
I haven't actually applied to change my name, and I want to change it really badly, but I'm so afraid that it's going to be a hassle. I'm so afraid that I'm gonna be stuck with this name for the rest of my life.
I would like to know what my other options would be if I have a hard time legally changing it where I live? It makes me feel angry and worked up to think of being denied. I know that in the UK you can just change your name by deed poll. USA is supposed to be the land of the free but so many countries enjoy more freedoms than we have here.
So... what would my options be? I hate the name and can't stand it anymore. Could I just go by a different last name that I identify with more? What would be a polite way of telling people that I go by something else?
Has anyone ever heard of someone, any state, any city, changing their last name because of desire or for reasons similar to mine? In other words, because they hated it or didn't identify with it? What did they do? Where did they live?
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I just can't bear to be named it anymore.
I'm NOT saying that I would do this... but for example... maybe there's some immigrant who would like to have a green card. If he married me, he'd get the green card, and I'd get a beautiful last name. I'd be doing a good deed, he'd be helping me out. I'm not SAYING I would do this, just an example.
I clarify that I'm WELL over the age of 18, so I wouldn't need their permission.
I can accept a sincere answer, that answers my question. If you have a mean answer, you can just leave. I'm tired of hearing stuff, like, accept it or get over it. If that's al you have to say, you can leave. This has bothered me for a long time and I have my reasons and would like an informed answer.
If you can help me, thank you.
Name change laws where I live??? What options do I have?
Go down to your county courthouse and go to the clerk's office. Ask for the name change forms. Fill them out. File them. Wait the prescribed number of days after posting it, and go to court. Your name will be changed.
It's no big deal because you are over 18.
