I%26#039;ll keep the back story short. I%26#039;ve been struggling with a huge dilemma over the last few months. I have always been gay but denied it for most of my life (I%26#039;m 16 turning 17 soon). My family is extremely conservative and catholic, and they would%26#039;ve never found out.
I fell in love with another guy. Please please please don%26#039;t tell me that I%26#039;m too young to know what love is. I may not be wise or experienced or the smartest person, but I%26#039;m sure about this, I know I%26#039;m in love. His family found out and they had a problem with it, they told my family. The situation has kept escalating to the point where we aren%26#039;t allowed to talk anymore. His parents are good with technology and they can keep track of phone records, text, computer, everything. There is no possible way to communicate with this guy.
I%26#039;ve always had A LOT of problems with family, and I have considered running away many times before. This time I%26#039;m certain. I%26#039;m running away with him tonight. We%26#039;re sneaking out of our houses tonight. Don%26#039;t try to talk me out of it, believe me my mind is set. I have sat down calmly and considered all the possible consequences and it is worth it all to me. If you%26#039;re gonna tell me not to run then don%26#039;t answer.
What I need now is your intellectual input on certain things. I have plans on where to go and how to get by, but I%26#039;d really love it if someone provided me with information on foster care, safe houses, where to get free food, changing your identity, getting adopted while on the run, and basically anything that can assist me in running away.
Please, my life depends on this!
(I cannot get caught and come back to my family, there%26#039;s nothing but hate left there)
My life is riding on this question, please answer?
you sound like you need to get a job and get out on your own for real.
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My life is riding on this question, please answer?
If you go to get foster care or adoption you will be brought back to your family. Also, some homeless shelters will contact your family so you will need to be able to get a job and take care of yourself. It is not easy. Blessings on your journey.
Dude!!!!!!!! Im so sorry!!! I know you said to answer if your gonna say dont run away but i have to!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DONT RUN AWAY!!! im a christian not catholic but man just pray!!!! pray pray pray!!! im so sorry for you and hope that God puts His hand on you!
You should go to a shelter thats for teenagers and tell them your problems, they might help you with places to stay , etc.,
Where do you live? Because no one%26#039;s gonna be able to tell you about free food locations and safe houses if we have no clue where you are.
well you need to tell us where you live at. lol.
cause we cant really give u info unless yu tell us where u stay.
Check out the GLBT National Helpline:
http://www.glnh.org/index2.html
They may be able to help you with this decision. There will be a lot more stress placed on you if you run away, like worrying about getting caught, making money, being homeless. I know it%26#039;s hard right now, but it will pass in a year after you turn 18 and then you can legally do what you want with your life.
hey, i think its great you found someone you love for the rest of your life, and i don%26#039;t think your too young. If two people fall in love that%26#039;s great, and no matter what age or sex they are. Congratulations on finding that person. Now i don%26#039;t know a lot about where you could go but just listen, your family loves you, just give them time to get use to this. Just getting adopted and foster care and everything you need papers signed by your parents, and you are underage to change your name without your parents consent. i know it will be a year to you are legal but is there chance you guys can make a schedule and see each other without your parents knowing and then when your 18 start your lives together. Good luck, i hope i helped.
Okay i can honestly tell you i feel for you.
I don%26#039;t know where i can get you a hold of those things, but i can tell you that you are 17, almost 18 so you are okay for the most part, if they find you after you%26#039;ve turned 18, you%26#039;re a-ok.
I can tell you, good luck and my you both be happy.
get jobs if necessary, but go to school! you can assure you have a great life, give your parents altimatums! it might work.
please, re-consider, if not take care, and know not to ever regret anything you%26#039;re going to do .
can I run away with you and join the circus???? jk, but seriously, calm down. Even though your family and his family both hate the both of you, it doesn%26#039;t make sense to be thinking like this. As soon as you turn 18, just look them in the face and say %26quot;F*** YOU!!!! I MAY BE SOMEONE%26#039;S BOYFRIEND RIGHT NOW....BUT IF YOU HURT ME, YOU%26#039;LL BE LOCKED UP AND SOMEONE%26#039;S GIRLFRIEND!!!!!%26quot;. There are many assissting programs that will help you. First of all, don%26#039;t run away, because if you do and you get caught, the police will bring you back home. You need to emancipate yourself from your parents so you can say that you don%26#039;t have to go back. And if you run away, go to a state that legalizes gay marriage. Since your only 16, get some information from social services and let them know that your in a hostile environment when your home. And go to the soup kitchen for free food or church. Good luck.
Why did you give us a back story if you weren%26#039;t going to change your mind? Anyway...
Honestly, you%26#039;re sixteen- so adoption might be hard. In Baltimore City there are a lot of soup kitchens, I%26#039;m sure it%26#039;s the same is for any city. But DC is the best for getting fake IDs, but it%26#039;s also the toughest if you get caught with one. Los Vegas can help for starting new.
1. Foster care: Don%26#039;t know the state or provence you live in, so can%26#039;t tell you the exact details of how that would happen. I know you are going to have to show cause as to why you believe foster care would be the best resolution for you situation. You could try for emancipation from your family.
2. Safe Houses: Once again don%26#039;t know where you are from of where you are going. You will need to report to your local child protection agency to get the information on that.
3.Get your free food at the safe house, shelter, gay support group.
4.changing your identity: See the police or an attorney, We%26#039;re not here to help you break the law.
5.Adoption: Not going to happen until you are legally emancipated or somehow separated from your family of origin.
The cons are obvious:
1. The relationship might not last.
2. You probably won%26#039;t be able to finish your education (no hs or college).
3. Living going from shelter to shelter is difficult.
4. Your relationship with your family may be permanently destroyed.
5. Cops may start looking for you seeing how you%26#039;re a minor.
If you%26#039;re a little more patient, the benefits might be substantial. You%26#039;re families might even come around.
But if you%26#039;re set on it, who am I to say don%26#039;t do it. I have confidence that you know better than anyone else what%26#039;s best for you.
i know you dont want to hear this but please please reconsider!! things will get better believe me they always do.
welll. . there no chance youd be adopted. thats a big legal process. depending on where you live you can go homeless and prolly get by. the only place i can think of with free meals and free shelter is jail. . .
I won%26#039;t say it because you said not to, so I%26#039;ll say something else. If it were me and my fiance in your situation at that age, I%26#039;d be scared shitless.
First of all, catching runaways is very easy for police officers, especially being as a lot of folks tip them off when they see you in public. Changing your appearance should be your first priority. Wig, haircut, new tattoo, new piercing, something.
Foster homes are not an option. If you get involved trying to find someone to take you in, you%26#039;ll get sent back home.
Safe houses will report you to the police if you are under age.
Salvation Army gives free food, but will report you if you are underage.
As far as I can tell, your best bet would be getting over the country border or finding a church sanctuary such as a monestary that will accept you. And finding one in this modern day that won%26#039;t report you or turn you out is going to be very difficult, especially since you%26#039;ll be travelling with your partner and the sexual orientation will be obvious.
You can not legally change your identity because you are under age, also.
I am sorry, but running away is not ever very successful. You%26#039;ll probably end up back at home regardless. You have two years until you are 18. Your BEST bet is to wait it out.
Good luck to you and God bless.
Hey, since you are 16, you can get emancipated from your family. Since there is no violence in the home or anything really bad, social services wouldn%26#039;t put you in another home. Churches normally hold food for the homeless. Go talk to an attorney, or social worker to get things rolling. Get a job, you can also get food stamps. Changing your identity is not necessary if you get emancipated. I%26#039;m sorry you are having such a rough time. Just a thought though, you may be able to find a family member who doesn%26#039;t mind the fact that you are gay, you may be able to stay with them that way you aren%26#039;t on your own. Good luck honey, the world is tough, be careful!!!
wow. maybe ill just skip the whole backround thing. but let me just say it is not your or his family%26#039;s business about you and your friends relationship. and that is the reason why you want to run away. and you know there is NO TURNING BACK. i, personally, have had many run- ins with my parents. my cousin has had far worse, he wanted to kill his parents. they treated him like ****. he ran away a few times only for the night, and showed up later on. he was glad he didnt kill his parents or run away. and i was too.
now what im trying to tell you is that this may just be a temporary thing in your life. your parents might come to terms with you if they give you the slightest chance to speak up. if you dont have the guts to confront them about this, running away might not be the best idea. i am also 16, and oddly enough, i have a hunch that my parents think im gay. and while it is a temporary thing ( i try to hide my encounters with girls from them and ignore looking at girls on the street bc my mom is really annoying when it comes to talkin bout girls), it hurts to be misunderstood. the diffrence between me and you is that im not actually gay, and its easy for me to prove them wrong about their belief.
now here is my point: please dont run away. i can assure you you are so pent- up that your emotions have the best of you. but IF YOU MUST, just make sure you have no regrets. i respect your decision, however i dont think it is the best one. and i dont think its the best idea to ask for advice on how to live life as a fugitive on the internet right before you run away!!!! at least plan it so you dont get ****** over and get into drugs or turn to crime and die in the streets. if you dont know exactly what to do in the next, say, month...then dont run away tonight. give yousrelf some time so that you wont find yourself unprepared and running back to mommy n daddy wishing you would have planned.
BOTTOM LINE: IF YOU MUST ( AND I MEAN MUST) RUN AWAY, YOU MUST HAVE EVERYTHING PLANNED OUT FOR YOUR FUTURE LIFE AS A RUN AWAY. IF THAT MEANS NOT RUNNING AWAY TONIGHT, THEN SO BE IT. YOU WILL REGRET RUNNING AWAY IF YOU SCREW UP
good luck, God bless (yes, God still loves you, in fact.. your parents are the evil ones here..not you, my friend)
